David Varrone

Here is something most people do not consider; are your reacting or are you responding? One requires no thoughts, no on purpose selection of behavior, the other requires you to think. You must think about your behavior. You must make a choice as to how you allow whatever it is that is occurring to effect you. Why, because it is this constant course of behavior that will determine your attitude all day long. When in reaction mode your emotions run the show which can be very very chaotic. When in response you allow your thoughts to participate in the outcome of a situation. When your thoughts are involved you can make choices to change the direction of the situation. When only your emotions are involved – like attracts like – so if you fly on emotion it tends to increase or become more and more of what you are reacting to. Remember, emotionally you are transmitting a vibration, that vibration will attract more and more of the same vibration – Good or Bad.

SITUATION : Lets set the table for this. Say the situation at hand is that you are driving down the road in your car. Someone comes up from behind you and begins tailgating you and you are on a fairly narrow, curvy road. Upon first notice you feel your vibration of aggravation creeping up on you. You begin to feel a twinge of anger. Your emotions begin to take hold….. This situation continues to expand as this individual continues to creep closer and closer to the back of your car. A few more moments pass by and then this individual moves his or her car around you and in the process passes you (Because you are beginning to react in anger you accelerate to make his action of passing that much more challenging). In doing so they cut so close to the front corner of your car that you must hit the brakes and swerve to avoid the two cars colliding.

REACTION : So now as your temper flares, you decide (And it is a decision) to pursue this lunatic. You are going to “show them” or give them piece of your mind. You begin to race after them. Letting go all sense of reality in driving angry and without caution. You chase the individual down and as your temper continues to flare, you engauge in the next non-productive reaction. A Confrontation. In this confrontation you end up in a physical or at the very least a mental and verbal battle that proceeds to waste even more of your time……. I need not go further as this situation could get worse and worse but you get the picture. Your reaction in anger takes you on a non productive path and even more unsettling time wasting chaos.  As a result of all of this you end up 10 minutes late to an appointment. Then the person you are meeting with becomes annoyed at you for your vibration is of stress and anger. The purpose of the meeting goes unfulfilled for they don’t even wish to be around you…. See where I am going here?

RESPOND : Now lets assume the same thing happens to you and instead of reacting you decide to slow down and allow that tailgater to pass you buy. A few miles up the road you end up next to the tailgater and a light and you come to find that this person has a pregnant passenger in the the car with him – about to give birth. The person is not angry or hostile – remember your anger caused their anger in the REACTION….. This person is scared to death. You immediately render assistance and call for help. At the same time you call ahead to your appointment and let them know you will be late and why. As you describe with compassion what is going on and what you are doing your appointment feels that vibration and also begins to feel that compassion. Their vibration matches yours. Ultimately when you do meet up with your appointment you have a phenomenal meeting and accomplish exactly what you set out to do.

Now both these situations have a similar start and a dramatically different outcome. All because you chose to RESPOND instead of REACT.  In studying human behavior, I have found this process of responding over – overreacting to be one of the largest leaps people can make in creating the life they really desire. It is an absolute Success Principle. The person that thinks and responds is in control of their future and the person that reacts has no control over anything.

Imagine if you slowed down and viewed every situation you encounter with the compassion and thought of more possibilities than just your emotional response….. Think about how many situations throughout your life that could have had a DRAMATICALLY DIFFERENT outcome if you chose to approach things from a different angle. Always remember the “Law of Attraction”, like it or not, it is always at work. The moment you make this choice to live life more on purpose and with thought and focus on what you do want instead of an emotional reaction in trying to change what is going on is the moment life becomes AWESOME. It becomes awesome for you have become on purpose and no longer are your pure emotions recreating what you don’t want.

Remember that the “Law of Attraction” will recreate and re-attract exactly what your EMOTIONS and THOUGHTS are focused upon. So today in as many situations as you can, make a choice. Make a choice to RESPOND and not REACT and I believe you will see some tremendous changes in life turning out just the way you wanted it to in the first place. Make sure you use your emotional charges for the great things around you and for the right things with the people you love and watch what happens.

Elevate

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