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The Law of Attraction – Going Full Throttle

Tuesday, September 23rd, 2014

The Law of Attraction – Going Full Throttle

 

Going Full Throttle with The Law of Attraction. It’s a GREAT time to get into some mechanics… At this point we have set up a foundation of Gratitude combined with Massive Vibrational Goal Setting. In addition we have begun to shed light on what is really creating your perspective on life. It’s your conditioning. Whether that conditioning is what you were exposed to as a child or if you are just repeatedly exposing yourself to sources of information and stimulus that influence your thinking in a certain way. All of what we have covered so far merely sets the table for the single most important LAW in the universe. It is absolutely as functional as “GRAVITY”.  ITt IS : “THE LAW OF ATTRACTION“.

DEFINITION OF THE LAW OF ATTRACTION : Simply put – Like attracts like…. You know you have heard things like this before “Birds of a Feather Flock Together”. Ever notice a heard of animals traveling together on a nature show. Same principle. So behind the scenes of our lives with have this mystical magnetic force that seems to attract and bring into our reality everything that we are focused on…. Therein lies a catch tot he Law of Attraction, since it works off of what we are thinking about and have the strongest focus of our energy and attention on….. Then a very important element of The Law of Attraction is the fact that it works period in an absolute form. What that means is that it does not matter whether it is something you want to occur strongly or it is something that you do not want to occur strongly. Either of those things will occur.
PROOF : To prove that The Law of Attraction will work whether your thought is a NO I DON’T WANT thought or it’s a I WANT OR DESIRE though does not matter – watch this. I give you an instruction : “Don’t think about the American Flag”.  Immediately what occurs is your mind pictures what you don’t want…… You can’t deny it!! So be clear on this.
In order to use The Law of Attraction to your advantage the focus on Gratitude and Goals begins to set your thinking habitually in the motion of CHOICE instead of Drifting. The real challenge we have then is that we all create a plan of action moving toward what we desire. The challenge is that once a thought is conceived, if the thoughts are chosen in a CERTAIN manner we create a positive plan of action and perform the necessary tasks that we BELIEVE will achieve the desired result.
 
Sounds Simple —- Right???
BUT     What happens when we allow not the infusion of our own thoughts and plans….. But the thoughts and plans of our conditioning, our environment, or perhaps even false evidence come into mental focus. That in effect places the BRAKES on the Law of Attraction delivering what you desire and it delivers what you FEAR or DESPISE Most. I call this the double edge sword of The Law Of Attraction.
 
So today we’ll dive into that and clarify exactly what is going on, on a behind the scenes look at The Law of Attraction in Action. We’ll see how that STINKING THINKING will Create a Counter Productive Path of actions that will create what you DON’T DESIRE and have you hunting and finding evidence to support what your thinking is. You will see clearly why things may seem like they are backfiring, when indeed you are creating exactly what is happening.
 
Once you are clear there we’ll review the methods below that I use EVERY DAY to bring my focus of thought RIGHT where it should be to create the most efficient use of The Law of Attraction. Listed below you will find the Method/Exercises I use for the specific roadblock I may encounter:
 
#1) FOR AN ISSUE INVOLVING A MEMORY OF AN EXPERIENCE : I first remind myself it is a MEMORY…. Something from the past. I then review the situation to see if ALL of the circumstances are the same. If they are — I take the gut feelings or vibrations seriously and make a new plan of action. If the circumstances are NOT the same I then (Guess what) I sit down with a pad…. I literally look things over and with the pen and pad I hand write all of the reasons and circumstances that will allow the situation to develop and blossom into what I desire. Writing this out by hand is essential. It will force you to think a bit more clearly that if you just do it in your head.
 
#2) FOR AN ISSUE INVOLVING COMMENTS FROM ANY  NUT  GALLERY : Here in lies where I use the word NUT instead of Peanut…. The reason being is that when you begin to drift into NOT thinking. It’s actually a relief. We internally begin to feel like you know their right – so instead of creating a thought process to make it all happen…. We create a process of “WHY BOTHER” to take action for like “Dad” said or like “Aunt Martha” said (It could be anyone – even a friend close to you). So knowing that if I buy into other people’s evidence, I know I am DRIFTING.  I then take things a step further. Again with a Pad and Pen. I sit down and really look first to see if they truly had any such experience. If they have not had the experience directly – it’s just noise.
 
If they have had the experience or a similar experience I go one step further in dissecting things. I look at their circumstances and mine. I look at precisely what they did and how they did it and I make a list. Actually I make 2 lists. One for their circumstances compared to mine and another one – where I think and take notice of WHY I AM DIFFERENT and how it can work.
 
#3) INFLUENCE OF THE MEDIA OR OTHER EXTERNAL NON-SENSE : As I have stated before if you are well traveled it is clear to see how the media can give partial stories and create a path of negative sensationalism. This TOWN CRIER type of merchandising the news started with PAUL REVERE (The British are coming…….). Here is where it indeed can get tricky. If the media has supplied information that you are going to base decisions on, you must make a distinction and in doing so some comparative resources must be looked at.
 
Here in lies the real challenge. Actually not a challenge but a choice. If you make the choice in advance on what you want to do despite the media….. Then you can look for evidence specifically that supports your decision. I implore you to FIND a TON OF IT. That is what I do…..
Here is a little video that will shed a great deal of light on things :  http://youtu.be/b295OBuDmyM

 
So today we’ll go over these first 3 methods – I have more up my sleeve. Yes this is REAL WORK – remember I clearly told you that you would work more on yourself than on your activity or business – here comes a ton of that work. Once you begin to evaluate and dissect each time negative or stinkin thinkin comes into play – you up the game of life for yourself. You take it to the level that all thinkers and those top 3%’ers do. Welcome to my world people – its your world too.
 
See you on the call.
~~ David Varrone

 

 

 

Words Are NOT A Dime A Dozen

Monday, September 22nd, 2014

Words Are NOT a Dime a Dozen

Today let’s travel down the path of self dialog. After all we are going to filter our thoughts and actions through ourselves. In that self dialog lies how we coach ourselves. What we say to ourselves often has more of an impact on what we are doing than the Media or our Friends and Family for that matter.
 
Thinking back to those childhood stories of I believe it was The little Engine that could. If you go to You Tube and just search for that, you will see an abundance of video and self talk videos that will make the point. That point being that our internal dialog helps Empower us or Dis-Empower us.
 
Now sit back and think about this before I get into those words and the use of those words. Really think about your REACTIONS or RESPONSES to situations and how the self dialog gets you into a productive motion OR NOT. We have been building here on creating belief or altering it. Its now time to realize that this is not an action when once complete is complete…. In order to make those changes permanent we are indeed going to have to change that internal dialog. Particularly if that dialog is not positive.
 
So our choice of language and dialog must be brought into focus. You might be asking : So how does that fit into what we are doing right now in the reconstruction of our lives? It’s Simple. Here is the metaphor. The right choice of words creates action that leads to the simplest most rapid construction of the life we desire. Sort of like either using a hammer to swing a few times to drive a nail in OR we could use a compressor based nail gun that drove the nail in with 5% of the effort and allows us to get 20 times more done in a day.
 
Our self dialog will coach ourselves into positive action that fosters a better and better result, while any DIS-EMPOWERING words will TALK US OUT OF TAKING ACTION. Remember in this world, and with the way we are wired, this self talk will always create a way for us to be “RIGHT“. Its the way we are wired for self-preservation. I for once realized as I have stated before, that I am the only one standing in my own way. In addition, the word usage change has a second effect. Your words become powerful when others listen so others begin to regard you as a LEADER….
In want you to see what happens when you really NEED HELP…. And you choose the wrong words — just what that can cost you :
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First a Set of Words that MUST BE MINIMIZED or ELIMINATED from use.

NO
DON’T
NOT
CAN’T
SHOULDN’T
COULDN’T

Then a bunch of words to now replace :

OLD  WORD        REPLACE  WITH
Maybe                          Done / Definitely
Try                                 Do / Will / Definitely / Absolutely
Hope                             Believe,  Certainly
Help                              Assist
Need                             Deserve / Desire
BUT                              However / Although
Work                           Create
Have to                       Choose to
Well, Ummmm        Moving Forward
Could                          Of Course it will, Undoubtedly
One more little perspective review and change all based upon changing a few words :

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It is time to become conscious of the fact that your own words are actually going to dictate the next few minutes, the next few hours, the next few years….  So take the time to switch out some of these words so that life changes dramatically and RAPIDLY for you. See you on our call.

 

~~ David Varrone

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Fine Tuning Self Dialog – 24/7

Wednesday, September 17th, 2014

Fine Tuning Self Dialog – 24/7

Today you will clearly see why this Thinking vs. Drifting is such an important concept. By the end of our call you will learn how to exactly how to fine tune self dialog 24 7. We all have that voice in our heads or voice in our hearts that basically direct our feelings. These voices are what we repeatedly tell ourselves over and over again. So at the core of how we are making ourselves feel about our lives or situations is first our reactionary conditioned beliefs.  Then our constant words or thoughts to ourselves begin to reinforce our beliefs and thus place a set of emotions into play that ultimately dictate how we will behave.

Here is a little video that I came across that has a magical question in it. Check it out and follow what this guy Tony Teegarden has to say about self talk / dialog :

Mind you this is very street version of more than likely, some far more complex psychological terms. I am actually certain for when I was in the middle of discovering I was causing my own insanity about certain things in my life I had elected to talk to a therapist. She had Meds and Disorder “Labels” but nothing that really did anything (Xanax, Buspar, and Effexxor).
So from the bottom of my heart I hope at least one of you out of the hundreds gets this connection today.  What you think about and think about and talk to yourself about will alter your beliefs WHETHER WHAT YOU ARE TELLING YOURSELF IS TRUE OR NOT TRUE.

Think about what I put out there. Think about the Monster in the Closet – was he ever there? Or under the bed? But you believed it. Think about the NFL and what an NFL player must tell himself (particularly the smaller guys). I am not going to type out here what they think but I will go into this in detail on our call.

I want you to also take a look at the evidence of 5000+ years of religion in the world. People study their chosen religion / scripture over and over and over and over. They do this to ingrain in their minds all aspects of their chosen belief, so prayer or orchestrated, repeated dialog definitely does something, doesn’t it? This is not about religion, its about knowing the methods that have worked and been in use for thousands of years is tremendously to your advantage.
So now you see WHY its so very important to watch what you are allowing yourself to think about and focus on. These elements of what you are thinking about will come out in your words. Hence why some of you CLAIM to way exactly the same words as some of the successful people in your organizations, however, you get different results. Because they have spent the day thinking and focusing on different things (Not the murder in Chicago) but how can they reach out and effect more lives? How can I create more success?
ELIMINATION OF SELF DIALOG
So now as we make this step into self dialog there are a few things you MUST do first:
 Number One assume that you ARE POWERFUL ENOUGH TO EFFECT CHANGE.
Number Two have a meeting with your MIND and your BEHIND and make sure things line up. Meaning ARE YOU DOING WHAT YOU LOVE SO MUCH YOU WANT TO SHARE IT WITH THE WORLD? (Think about this, every brick and mortar business you go into that you see the owner or know them – check on this loving what they do aspect, it is a necessary component.
Number Three ask yourself – Are you willing to implement some silly changes that might make a huge difference in your thinking?
Number Four – Are you willing and able to manage the negative people and situations in your life, at times sacrificing time spent when those people are at their most negative, to minimize their negative influence?
Number Five – Once you see what the influences are that do not work to your advantage, are you willing to eliminate those influences that do not work to your advantage?
Number Six – When presented with things that you KNOW will make things better, are you committed enough to make the change, right then and there, cold turkey? Likewise when you know something will work 100% against you are you willing to eliminate that, or change that behavior?
If you all are willing to look into what’s causing your thoughts and feeling then you will see the root of your own self dialog. Then our mission today will be to clarify all of this and the HOW it all works.
I want you making the choices both in your environment and thinking that will then leave you in a mental space of being able to talk to yourself the way that I have come to over the years.  It has served me enormously over the past 3 years in particular when I made a number of connections and changes.

Always remember that magical question to correct negative self-dialog…… Would you say to a 5 YEAR OLD what you are thinking or saying to yourself? If the answer is NO – then its time to eliminate that thought or set of words….

Where did we learn all of this. Join our group anytime by filling out the form to the right and more information will be sent to you. You can also check out www.successfortherestofus.org — to find out a little more behind the scenes.

 

By ~~ David Varrone

Identify and Question Your Habits of Thought

Tuesday, September 16th, 2014

Identify and Question Your Habits of Thought

 

Yesterday we call came together and established the fact that our beliefs are going to shape everything that happens, or shall I say we will allow to have happen in our lives. We also covered a step by step way in which, when you encounter a thought or belief that is not serving your life plan or direction of your goals, you can indeed change it. Today I want you to dig WAY deeper into what you are allowing to occur WITHOUT thinking. It is very important that you realize that you are actually operating this way (On “Autopilot”) about 95% of your life……….. Meaning that great conditioning that is our underlying programming……… Without thinking that is running your life. Your life is for the most part or perhaps for 98% of you, for the most part on “Autopilot”. Today, its time to smash the autopilot and take back the controls.

Wow, all that was not only more than a mouthful but also a head-full. As human beings we are programmed to multitask. How do we know this? Just look at all of the different things you are doing right this very minute on autopilot. As Human Beings we were designed so we could see, hear, talk, breath, have our hearts beat, walk, and yes chew gum at the same time. So our brains are wired to support this.

The problem only erupts when we remove our own thinking from a process that we actually have never experienced and take the experience or direction from others. Lets take a look at a few examples….. A Roller Coaster Ride…… If lets say someone you knew got hurt or injured on a Roller Coaster…… Then you would have a bonafide shred of evidence to support NOT taking a ride on a roller coaster. Even though you yourself never experienced a problem, someone Else’s experience that YOU PLACED A VALUE ON now becomes part of your AUTOPILOT PROGRAM…… Silly and simple example put you get the point. The opposite is also true. If your Friends and Family all loved roller coaster rides then your AUTOPILOT PROGRAM would more than likely have you enjoying roller coasters at a young age.

So we all have these learned habits of thought….. Think about some other situations whereby our experiences just might be ignorant of the possibilities of life.

IGNORANT OF THE POSSIBILITIES

So we take a close look at not only our upbringing but what society and the media feed us and we have a recipe for what I call – “IGNORANCE OF THE POSSIBILITIES“. This concept affects all of us to a certain degree. The knowledge inserted from conditioning and all of these outside stimulus’s begin to remove any and all thoughts of the possibilities of creating the life or business that you USED TO WISH FOR……….. You stop dreaming. You stop thriving. You stop growing experiencing and learning and BAM you wake up 20 years older and the kids have moved on…… Totally Ignorant of the life you could have dreamed up, designed, implemented, and LIVED.

Why take “their words”? Why not challenge things? What not go out on a limb for yourself? Why not create a plan of hard work to achieve the creation of the life your want? Think about this process. In smashing the autopilot of life, you gain control and responsibility for your own circumstances. THEN AND ONLY THEN DO YOU LOOSE TWO THINGS :

1) The HELPLESSNESS of having excuses…. Would you rather have excuses for why something did not work and make it someone Else’s fault. OR would you rather claim responsibility for the Blood, Sweat, and Tears that you place into something and accept the success and accomplishments that come with that?

2) FAILURE : Yes by smashing the AutoPilot……. The plane does not necessarily give up and head for a safe place. You have the ability to loose failure for without the Autopilot you can rethink the game and change all the perimeters. With autopilot, you accept the stories from others that it cannot be accomplished.

So today lets take a stand and Identify Your Habits of Thought :

Sit down and make a list of the things you have done today that are routine…. Then make a simple short comment next to each element of your list. The comment should be simple – Moving Towards Goals and Life the way I want or NOT SERVING MY PLAN. In the beginning this will seem ridiculous and a complete waste of time. However, once you become present enough to notice what actions and activities you are doing consciously and unconsciously the mystery of all of this will begin to unfold.

Society today relies heavily upon your Autopilots ability to create a conformist. Someone who goes along the “The Plan”. Work Mon-Fri. 40-60 hours a week. Sit in traffic and commute. All to make a wage of xxxx . The “Average Median Income of America for 2014” = $51,017 .

Think about the car experience itself. Road and speed limits are designed for the masses. Masses of driver skill and car ability.

In almost every area of our lives there exists a way to Herd the masses. Those who take different paths of thought have a very different experience from those who choose to leave the Habits of Thought in place. All of the top 3 per-centers…… Have no autopilot of thought. Think about these perceptions, if you note – the Broke People are on Autopilot with no room to think or breath. The Wealthy people – are planning a legacy for generations to come (Get it?)  :

Have you ever heard this?

Broke people think a week ahead.
Solvent people think a month ahead.
Comfortable people think a year ahead.
Wealthy people think 10 years ahead.

When you first read that, you might think, “Well, of course a broke person can’t think more than a week ahead. They don’t have much money and they have to plan how to spend it.”

That’s a fair answer. But, here’s what most people don’t realize: if they never think more than a week ahead, they’ll ALWAYS be broke.

The quality of their THINKING is what actually creates their struggle.

So join us today…. We will shed light on smashing the Autopilot and taking back more control of your life.

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The Direction Of Your Belief – David Varrone

Monday, September 15th, 2014

The Direction Of Your Belief

The Direction of your belief today is writing the script of your life for tomorrow. Think about that as it related to who you are today and who you were the day you were born. Nearly everything we have ever learned came from us taking a risk based upon believing the outcome would be phenomenal or at least acceptable. Think about the experiences that you have had and the experiences that you have had and then watched others experience…… Its all there. Our belief system will dictate out behavior. So much so that our ability to achieve success and greatness is first defined there.

So as this group comes together for the first time in a very long time, we shall indeed start there. We must look into our beliefs about why we are in business. Why we are in the life structure we have chosen and then we must choose to either accept things as they are OR………… Recreate Your Beliefs, so that they are serving you NOT dictating your path.

We shall start at looking at a few instances of your own personal growth. Lets look at two scenarios. One, learning to walk, and two learning to ride a bike.

Think about when you learned to walk. You saw someone walking effortlessly. You saw it owner and over and over again…. Then you chose to believe that you could in fact walk. Because you made that choice that you were going to walk….. You then made a consistent NON-EFFORT through every challenge, until you achieved the goal. Most of us do this by the time we are around 1 year old. Its the perfect example. You BELIEVE, THEREFOR YOU TAKE MASSIVE CONSISTENT ACTION, until the goal is achieved. You push through the challenges of gravity. Of hard floors. Of Egg Bumps on your head. This is the one near perfect example of what I want you to consider as we begin.

Think about another major “impossible” event that nearly everyone gets through. This one taking place a little later in life with a little more conditioning. A few more learned lessons that may or may not limit your belief in whats possible. Riding A Bike. Think about it. Balance. Trial and Error…… Skinned knees. Bruises. Physical Pain. Frustration. Yet again, most of us have made that choice to push through the challenges and achieve the goals.

These examples serve as lessons and a metaphor for being an Entrepreneur. You are going to have to make choices. The choices you make may actually to put yourself in a difficult or uncomfortable situation. However, the Joy Of Success lies in your pushing through all of your fears and obstacles, without ever giving up.

So how do we do all of this? We do all of this by creating faith in ourselves….. Napoleon Hill once stated : “Faith is the only known antidote for failure!”

Why is belief essential in terms of a component of success….. Because very simply put. Our Thinking will dictate our behavior, and our behavior will dictate how our life goes including all of our decisions. So now that most of you reading and listening have some clarity around the fact that The Direction of Your Belief will indeed create your future. Lats take a look at a technique and way to change your beleifs and replace non-serving ones with serving ones…..

Once you identify those thoughts, beliefs and behaviors, here is a way to change them all.  YOU MUST do this as a WRITTEN EXERCISE — MUST :
1) Identify : Identify a behavior or thought that you wish to change or modify.
2) Link this behavior or thought to MASSIVE CONSEQUENCES, in the following two ways:
     a) Write down 10, yes 10, specific costs or consequences of your behavior or thought not changing.
     b) Write down 10, yes 10, reasons why you must change that behavior NOW.
3) Create and Write down a mental picture, a vision of yourself, employing the new behavior or thoughts – One Paragraph.
4) Connect AT LEAST 10 Benefits of this new behavior and or set of thoughts and write those down.
It may seem a little crazy but this exercise above totally changed the way that I went about changing my thinking and behavior on issues I desired to change. It is still the method I use today to change and improve things. It takes you down a path of clarity and reason for change so the changes “stick” better and faster.
Your thoughts will lead to your behavior or actions. So as we begin to design the inside of this metaphoric house it is imperative that we go through this process so everything becomes very very clear. Then the design of your life and goals will be far less limited. We all want our future to be more free and this process can be used to eliminate your limiting beliefs.
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Do You Have What It Takes?

Friday, August 22nd, 2014

Do you have what it takes to be an Entrepreneur? Are you really truly ready to cut the umbilical chord of being a worker bee. Do you want to serve you last days meditating over a legacy or dynasty built for your family for generations to come or are you going to sit in struggle and worry that you will run out of money before you run out of time…..It is a valid question whether you are 19 or 69. The real question is have you found the direction of your life that inspires you enough to really change and do things differently?

Many years ago I had to ask myself the same question. I had to question where life was going with the decisions and planning I was creating. I had to sit back and really think do I want to continue to “OFF MY RESPONSIBILITIES” on a company or a boss so that I do not have to be responsible or work to hard? OR Am I willing to make the across the board changes to become an Entrepreneur? Do I want control over my time and money or do I want rules and perimeters dictated to me…..?

Well my answer was simple. I realized that I had to find a direction that I could focus myself in that I would be able to really commit myself and go the extra mile. Here is a little inspirational video that basically shares the mental changes that I had to go through to become a success. This video is just over 6 minutes long and will definitely re-frame our mind on your commitment to yourself.

Get Motivated

Here is also a link to more info and a bit of direction that I created a few years back that will also assist you : Worker Bee to Entrepreneur

Stay tuned for the complete series of webinars and blog info that will assist you in creating a plan of action that will take you from “Worker Bee” to “Entrepreneur”.

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Create An Amazing Life With Your Self Created Success ~ David Varrone